This is Sami. She has two older brothers, a younger brother, and an older sister; though none of her older siblings live at home anymore. She’s a junior at Fairbury Junior-Senior High School, the home-away-from-home to a whopping 400-or-so students. It’s the type of school where they say everyone knows everything about everyone, but it turns out that isn’t always true.
The first thing that strikes you about Sami is how small she is. Technically at 5’4” she’s absolutely average in height for a girl, but she seems shorter than almost everyone around her, possibly because none of the shoes she wears have heels. It isn’t just her height though; she’s what many people would call a twig. She’ll grudgingly point out to you the fact that she can take her thumb and middle finger and wrap them more than all the way around her tiny wrist. She says she went over to her new neighbors’ house one day, and they thought she was twelve. The irony is she’ll be 18 in less than a year, and people still think she looks like a little kid. She’s the kind of person that people look at and think of words like delicate and breakable.
This is a story about perseverance. It’s a story about moving on when someone who knew everything about you and meant the world to you just suddenly isn’t in your life anymore. It’s about facing the mirror every morning when part of you seems to be missing, and eventually even learning to get over it. Underneath it all, it is also another story that goes to show you can’t judge a book by its cover.
Who is Sami? At first glance she looks like a typical teenager; her summer wardrobe consists of shorts, flip-flops, and a tank top or T-shirt. She goes to school by day, and by night she does homework and chores. Ask her about her sister and you will get the whole story.You will find out that this one little person, no matter how “delicate” she may look, is pretty darn tough. She’ll tell you about the fights that lead up to her sister leaving; the arguments, the yelling, the ugly name-calling. She’ll tell you that now, her sister lives 20 miles away, but there’s a lot more than just distance keeping them apart. She’ll tell you about how even though she doesn’t like it, she’s learned to live with it because it’s just the way things are.
It is a summer night in late June or early July. Sami, 13 at the time, and her mom have just gotten home, and Sami heads downstairs to the room she and her sister share. She flicks on the lights and is shocked to find that her sister’s bed is completely bare, most of her clothes are missing, and she is nowhere to be found. Now she’s starting to get panicked. She didn’t know whether to go upstairs and tell her parents her sister was gone or sit down and cry about it, because she says she inevitably knew that her sister had moved out. Sami’s parents and her sister fought a lot, so she says she kind of anticipated her sister moving out, but when it actually happened it still shocked her. She says she remembers how hard it was to not have someone to talk to, since she and her sister were close.
Of course, what makes Sami most interesting is that she is what you would call adaptable. Because of the fact that she has gone through some major and rather sudden changes, she has had to learn to get used to the way things are. Even though some of the changes that happened were negative, she says it has helped her learn to accept that life isn’t always perfect.